Have you ever thought about the people who come in and out of your
life? Have you ever thought about how
many people that is?
I’m glad SOME of the people who have left my life are gone…
I wish SOME of the people who have left my life that are still on earth
would come back into my life…
oh, JULIE!! LOL...Friends at my 16th Surprise Birthday Party, October 30, 1978 |
I MISS those I LOVE who are no longer earth bound….
This was breakfast at my house, probably spring of 1980...Mother, Fannie and Jose Fejardo...Fannie and Jose were from Cali, South America...He interpreted for Billy Graham at one of his meetings in South America...Mother and Fannie are with the Lord today, BUT Jose is 100 years old! When they stayed at our house, our guest room is the front room that was the original DEN in our home...it's a BIG room with 9 foot ceilings and has the high bed my great uncle was born on...Jose came into the kitchen after they had put up their luggage and said "how do you think I can get into THAT bed..." Daddy went and got a foot stool and put it by the bed before they retired for the evening...the stool remains there to this day...ALL we could hear was laughter throughout the house...Jose said that he LOVED America...every event he went to, people would stand and sing: JOSE, CAN you SEE?
Isn’t it fun to talk about the good ole days? Don’t you WISH that each of us REALLY was as
pretty, as good, as talented, as funny, as smart, as popular, as WONDERFUL as
we seem to REMEMBER that we were?
This was May 23, 1980, the morning of my High School graduation...we had just practiced our graduation ceremony at the center and Kim and I had dropped LuAnn off at Kroger!
This was at the 4H awards banquet...probably my Junior Year...so MAYBE the Spring of 1979...This was our congressman at the time..
I was talking with one of my best friends from High School one day after a
LONG absence from my life, and I made a comment about having been in the
National Honor Society…Kim looked at me and said, “I DON’T remember you being
smart!” sigh…but REALLY, what would I
EXPECT from someone who was ONLY in the Beta Club~~SLACKER!
And Kim...that is NOT how to drive a car...boy, Daddy really should have taken the T-bird away! |
I’ve NOT been a perfect friend, but I’ve tried to be a good friend. I do my best to be as honest as I can be
WITHOUT being brutal. I do my BEST to
support my friends and NOT to bash them and put them down in front of others,
making them to feel small and unimportant…I WISH former friends could have done
the same for me…
Laurie at my 16th Birthday part...we carved pumpkin...Mother was SO clever!! |
I had a friend in High School who was a pretty good friend. We had fun and shared secrets and laughed…BUT
when we would be somewhere, IF someone was in our surroundings who was deemed
MORE POPULAR, she would leave me mid-sentence to hurry over to the popular
ones…TALK about feeling like an idiot…sigh…and MAYBE after 30 years, I SHOULD
forget about it…BUT I learned from her that when I was in a circle of people, I
was to do my best to make ALL feel welcomed.
A painful lesson to learn, but a needed lesson!
This is me, Debbie Spaddy, and Freda at the airport in Nashville, TN...do you REMEMBER when you could visit the gates and see your friends off? This was in July of 1979...we were saying goodbye to our friend, Debby, who had visited us on a 4H exchange trip from Alberta, Canada...I did not go on the exchange the next summer because I had a boyfriend and a job...SILLY me!
The last big outing with my Mother was a trip to Memphis for the wedding of
a close friend. At the ceremony, there
were few tables available. Two couples
joined us at the table and never ONCE after asking if they could sit with us,
did they offer ONE word to us…I smiled at them ONLY to be scoffed at as they
spoke LOUDLY to each other and BRAGGED of their lives…I quickly left and drove
back home the four hours so I could be at church the next morning to play the
piano…I LEARNED that people from Germantown, Tennessee MIGHT be as rude and as
snobby as I had often heard they are…That is ANOTHER reason I have absolutely
NO DESIRE to EVER belong to a Country Club!
This is me and Mother in Cali, Columbia (South America) in July of 1982. This lady and her son are from Cali. Mother met this lady on her previous visit there...This lady loved mother so much ALL because Mother took the time to LOVE her...it was a very special relationship.
This is me and Mother in Cali, Columbia (South America) in July of 1982. This lady and her son are from Cali. Mother met this lady on her previous visit there...This lady loved mother so much ALL because Mother took the time to LOVE her...it was a very special relationship.
I have had friends who have taken me under their wings and graciously
introduced me to their friends…
LuAnn (National Honor Society) and Kim (Beta Club...BWAH)...Baccalaureate Service, May 1980 |
I have been loved, cherished and nurtured by friends and family…
Back: Penny, Rhonda (roommate), Front: ME and Dawn...May of 1983...college friends |
I have had MANY opportunities to go to places and to meet people and to see
things that are so beautiful…
I have a picture of my X laying with a teddy bear on my bed also! LOL I wasn't the popular one, or the smart one.. I remember wanting nike shoes like my best friend (cheerleader) had, or the Levi jeans that everyone wore. I had a best friend all through grade school, and the very first day of Jr. High, she went off with the popular ones..the ones that "party" and got to go to all the football games. I never let myself have a "best" friend after that. We had a "60's" day in Jr. High, and were supposed to wear vintage clothes...one of the popular girls asked me what I was going to wear and I told her I didn't have anything.. she quickly informed me that yes I did, she had seen me wear them before.. LOL I wasn't a "material" girl then, not by choice.. but it is my choice now. Having family and friends that love YOU for you is much more life enriching than having material items that will soon fade away. Thank you for being YOU!! You bring me Sunshine every morning, even if I don't tell you everyday! XO
ReplyDeleteI THINK we should THEN watch out for guys with teddy bears!! It was an AWFUL relationship...
DeleteWe had to go to the CITY school in the 9th grade and I was miserable...I had been the smartest kid in the class in my country school of 24 and we ALL knew each other so it wasn't the social playground as having 200 in your class...I struggled to find my place and to find friends because at that point, we got to start CHOOSING what classes we were in and number separated all of my friends...I did NOT like it and homeroom during High School was MISerABLE for me!! Everyone had their own friends...AND I understand about NOT having the NAME BRANDS...sigh...we had NICE stuff, but it didn't have a LABEL on the outside...I remember the middle brother buying me a pair of GREEN Rebooks for Christmas one year...I was STYLING (oh gosh, or WAS it Nikes...sigh...see how important it was!!)
You are my friend and I love you...xoxo...I don't care WHAT you wear, WELL, maybe just a little...BWAH...no, not at all...
Charlotte....I smiled throughout this whole post. I've already said how our pasts are alot alike. Now i also see that we learned some lessons the same way. =)
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